Are you holding space from your wounding?
One of the most vital aspects of Space Holding + your journey of becoming an Embodied Facilitator is the lens you hold space from.
To become a master of your craft, you need to walk the path yourself to become the evidence of the Alchemical process that occurs within the work you guide + how it has the ability to transform lives.
But most importantly, if you are holding others from and through the lens of your own wounding, you are not aiding the persons transformation, you are keeping them locked into a cycle of which, you, yourself have yet to break out of.
Below are a few examples of how this may manifest
If you are holding space and you notice that you get irritated a lot by your work + your clients, this is pointing to a lack of capacity, ability to listen to what is true and a lack of compassion with certain aspects of yourself, you are invited to bring presence to the parts within yourself that you lack compassion to + reject, this will in turn allow you to hold your work and your clients in a greater capacity for their own humanness because you have an unconditional acceptance for your own multifaceted human experience.
If your own trauma means you fear taking people to their edges of discomfort or you are not able to stay fully present in the spaces you hold when big experiences occur; it is inviting you to deepen into your own transformational journey, our own trauma + life experiences as Facilitators are the transformational balm that creates our own unique frequency + medicine that we are here to share, it is not something to vilify or stay victim to, yet, we are invited to lean in + devote presence to our own personal journey, as this is where the fruits of your space holding live, in your capacity to hold your own depths of transformation + integrate your past experiences.
If you are constantly seeing the people you work with as victims of their circumstance, that is pointing a piece within your own psyche in which you are being invited to explore how you see yourself as victimised by life + circumstance and where you play out Victim Consciousness in your own lived experience, no sustainable transformation can occur for you as a Space Holder or your clients if you are trapped in this paradigm , for this paradigm is rooted in suffering + no one is free here.
If you are constantly trying to rescue your clients from their own discomfort, it is pointing towards the fact that you don’t trust them enough to hold themselves within their own process, which in turn points to your own relationship to your own inner self trust. Your own self trust in your capacity to hold yourself is vital within your Space Holding, if you don’t have a high level of self holding for yourself, ie, you do not trust in your own abilities to tranform x,y + z, this will manifest in how you relate to your clients experiences and process and how you may feel the need to rescue them out of your own self fear of not being able to hold yourself + in turn projecting that onto others and thus taking away a potent opportunity from your client to building self holding, self trust and access their power.
These are just a few ways your unintegrated wounding may be playing out in your spaces.
It is also an important reminder that there is no end destination here, we are never fully ‘healed’ on this path, you cannot heal from the human experience and our human experience, our own unique lives journey is what makes us the Space Holders we are, our journey, our life, our body, is the vessel for the transmission of our medicine that we are here to share with the world.
Yet, we have to be responsible for our own journey along the way, otherwise our own wounding leaks into our spaces + dulls the frequency of the magic we have to share.
Devotion to your own personal journey, is the key to holding a deep, transformative spaces for others.
If this has stirred something up within you and you are feeling called to deepen into your Medicine in this way, this is at the heart of all my upcoming trainings:
The Embodied Holder Online - April - June 2025, is a CPD style training, where this is one of the main focuses of the training, to enable your unique Medicine to flow freely, unhindered by your wounding.
The Oracle Embodied Online - A 9 month online Feminine Embodiment Facilitator Training (150 hours) - begins September 2025.
ALCHEMY - A 1 year in person Rebirthing Breathwork + Feminine Embodiment Training (400 hours) - begins January 2026.